Sort of a Valentine's Day question :D My brother and I had a really awesome discussion, I believe Friday night, about what real love is, and what people have skewed love into.
I've been noticing that a lot of people don't have a clue what kind of love they should be looking for in their relationships, whether romantic or not. Like some people think that because they really care a lot about someone of the opposite sex, that they must be in love, which is not necessarily true. I care a lot about a lot of boys, and I'm not in love with them. Or, they think that they could never possibly marry someone they were not positively obsessed with, which is also not true.
The person you should marry, is your best friend. You should be able to rely on your spouse better than anyone else. That being said, this was not meant to turn into a marriage counseling session. Just thought I'd put it out there because it's one of the points my brother and I were agreeing on like... what the heck do people think. Anyway....
In friendships, you should love your friend. You should care about them. You should care about them deeply. You should give up for them, encourage them, support them, tell them when they do wrong, and be patient with them. I've noticed a lot of this due to having different relationships with people recently. It doesn't matter how many times you argue, how many times you disagree, or how many times you irritate somebody. If they really are your friend, and you really are theirs, you can reach some form of agreement, because "love covers a multitude of sin". And friendships, are love. Love is not only for romance. Love is for friendships.
Which brings me to another point. I hate how people think guys are gay if they say they love each other. That is totally stupid. I mean, girls can say, "I love you baby. I love you doll. I love you, honey. I love you, darling. I love you, angel." and somehow or other, if I guy says, "I love you" to a guy he's not related to, everybody freaks out. Like, why is it? I don't understand it. It just doesn't make sense to me.
So.... the point in this long rant is that, love does not always mean romance, romance is not always you are head over heels, and that guys need to be able to say, "I love you" to each other without people jumping at their throats :D
Make sense? :D Most random rant, I'm sure :D
Love and prayers, Happy Family Day, Happy President's Day, and Happy Washington's Birthday! :D Look 'em up if you don't believe it's all those things today :)
By the way, read ICorinthians Chapter 13 for a rundown on what love looks like :D